the major message of gossip girl is going to end up being "When you meet someone you have a connection with and fall in love with them, no matter how hard you try, no matter how many people are better for you, if this great love came first, you will never move on. You will never stay with anyone else. You will never be able to be happier than you are with this person even if you want to. You will never love someone else enough to leave this person for good. You would hurt anyone for this person. You will hurt everyone for this person. You will hurt yourself for this person. You will be trapped in the love, even when, especially when, you don’t want to be. You will love them forever."